Nov 30, 2010
Hope you had an great Thanksgiving!
[Before I get crackin I want to give you a little warning! This blog post is sure to rustle up some feathers and parts of it might just down right piss you off. I've trimmed all the gushy, feel good stuff for some straight forward talk!]
Thanksgiving has always been my favorite day of the year, especially in upstate NY. The fireplace is burning all day…I get to spend some time with family, eat a ton of food, and relax and watch football…definitely a lot of things to be thankful for!
My initial intention leaving Boca Raton, heading back home for the holiday was to unwind, shut off my phone and computer, not checking email or Facebook…I didn’t even want to pick up a book. Balance is really important to me, and admittedly I have to try real hard to stop doing work or thinking about clients and how I can serve them better, and sometimes just lay back and relax.
Since I was able to just chill out, I picked up a lot of lessons and thoughts I might have passed before, and of course relayed those thoughts into fitness and how I can help people get into great shape, so today’s post has to do with the one big takeaway from this past Thanksgiving weekend: RESPONSIBILITY
It’s no secret that in talking to people, rarely is the topic of conversation a positive conversation about how great everything is in their lives . Instead it turns out to be a ‘bitch fest’ of all sorts of issues. Personal health, weight, appearance, spouses, kids, how tough their life is, world problems, social problems, money problems, no time, no energy, blah blah blah…
More importantly though, is to pay close attention to the causes of these problems for these people: the economy, their kids, the holidays, that time of the month, republicans, their boss, their neighbors, their family, their thyroid, the weather, Muslims, I can go on forever…
I had some awesome discussions with former clients over the weekend about their struggles to stay in shape over the holidays. Family is in town and you’re cooking for 20 people, there are holiday parties to go to, you’re cooking food your normally wouldn’t be cooking in June or August, and because of all of this you gain the average 6-8 lbs Americans do every single holiday season.
Now I might be wrong here, but I’m pretty sure that this coming year of 2011, there is going to be the same birthdays there were in 2010, Memorial Day weekend is still on the schedule. So is July 4th, Labor Day, holidays, cookouts, picnics, festivals, vacations, etc. Those days and times and excuses to eat bad never go away. In fact, they’ll be here looong after you and I are gone to create a whole set of excuses for the next generation.
The point is, this time of year gives a ton of people a 2 month excuse of…”It’s the holidays”. After, the guilt fest that is “New Year’s Resolution” follows from January 2 (Jan.1 is set aside as a recovery day) – approximately January 12th (plus or minus a couple days).
“You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.”
This sort of irresponsible attitude is what causes people like this to wait for miracle diet pills, someone else to beat up the bully, and someone else to create a job for them. I know this all sounds harsh, and if this is you right now I don’t dislike you or want to beat you up…I want you to look in the mirror and say to yourself that YOU are responsible for your own look, feel, wealth, and happiness. That you shouldn’t be waiting for your boss, your neighbor, the FDA, or heaven forbid you actually think some politician will pick you up and do it all for you. Winston Churchill said “Responsibilty is the price of greatness”…
Look, if you want out of the vicious cycle of gaining and losing weight, feeling like crap, not having any energy, wishing you had a flatter stomach, more confidence, and wanting happiness again, you have to step up and say that you are in charge, not the circumstance!
Without that self-accountability, all the tools, tricks in the world won’t get you to where you want to go!
I can give you exercise tips and strategies
I can give you the right foods to eat
I can give the newest, most cutting edge fitness strategies in the world
I can give you really powerful mindset techniques
BUT, what I CAN’T give you is the drive to get you there.
I can’t give you the desire it takes
I can’t give you the dedication it takes
I can’t give you the patience it takes
and most importantly I can’t give you the self-responsibility that is absolutely critical to achieving any and all of your goals!
Remember, circumstances can’t dictate actions!
Here’s to you!